Channeling Your Grief: Ways of Coping With Loss

 by Brian Warriner

            Grief is part of the path of life. It’s not just the end of a life but a divorce, the end of a relationship, loss of a job, etc. These events happen to everyone, and they happen when you least expect them, even though there are signs of losing a job or divorce, but not always. Whatever form the grief you are experiencing takes, we need to channel your grief. It’s difficult when dealing with grief. Because when you are dealing with grief, there is always something that makes the situation worse. Family drama makes grief take a back seat, and the hell of dealing with drama makes it difficult.

            You are hit with a bout of grief, your loved one has passed, and the initial stage of shock happens. Now we are past the services, and in grief for about six months. Because of this, you are having a difficult time processing and are emotionally exhausted. You feel depressed and have low energy. Life has become stagnant because you can’t get over this loss. You are stuck in the grieving process. Which is different for everyone, but somewhere along the way, it becomes difficult.

            The grieving process is different for everyone; no two people experience grief the same way, nor do they express grief the same way.  There are ways to channel your grief and help get you unstuck(Tips For Health Grieving Your Journey is Valid, 2013). For example, journaling about the pain, talking to a grief counselor, seeking professional help, and donating time and energy to a cause that will keep the memory of your loved one alive (Godfrey 2024). Now, the next ideas may be considered weird or out there. But if you have conversations with your loved one, keep talking to them. When you keep the dialogue with them, it helps draw their memory back. But also, it makes it feel like they are alive. They will be able to send you signs and messages from beyond the grave. Another thing to try is to put photos, items, and mementos in a box. When you start to think about your loved one or miss them, this may also invoke an emotional release, which is good to help ease your grief.

            I am a psychic medium and have read professionally to thousands of people in my career. I gave up doing readings when my health took a downward spiral. I have communicated with those who have crossed over and their loved ones who are left here to mourn them. I saw through my client's eyes and through my own experiences what grief can do to a person.

As I enter my newest career as a Clinical Mental Health Counselor with a specialty in Grief, Trauma, and Addictions. It’s because I want to help people become better versions of themselves. That means to help them understand their grief and how the loss of a loved one can impact their lives and mental health. I talked about my grief journey in a previous post.

            The truth about grief is that it can be selfish from time to time. We want our loved ones back but wanting them back means having them suffer again. When we survive the time, we will experience without them. Grief is adjusting to a life without our beloved loved ones with us. But in truth, their journey in life is done; they learned the lessons they needed to learn and the lessons they taught. Then we have the memories and all the other special times with them. It’s difficult not to have that person with us, it is earth-shattering and heartbreaking. But we have to keep going and living our lives until we are reunited with them on the other side. I do know that they are living their lives and enjoying things like they did here. Except they don’t have the confines of time and the human body that keep us bound. But remember, along the journey, as we grieve, we have to let it go or give it to God.

            I hope you found this informative and interesting. If you are stuck in grief, please seek help, speak to someone, and allow yourself to release your soul.
 
References
Tips For Healthy Grieving: Your Journey is Valid. (2013, November 7). Psych Central
            https://psychcentral.com/blog/healthy-ways-to-navigate-grief
Godfrey, A. (2024, September 24). When You Are Grieving. Hospice Foundation of America
            https://hospicefoundation.org/when-you-are-grieving/